tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post6438866116713761561..comments2023-08-12T07:55:06.441-04:00Comments on Rhymes with Javelin: Trauma, trauma everywhereS.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06957943262402999997noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-81777845608766839422008-08-28T07:07:00.000-04:002008-08-28T07:07:00.000-04:00Uccellina, I gather you found me via Phantom. Wel...Uccellina, I gather you found me via Phantom. Welcome, and I am so sorry you're part of this maternal fraternity. <BR/><BR/>I totally had the fantasy of throwing that fit, but what stopped me was the terror of getting stuck with the bill by our insurance company if they had an excuse to deny us. Z.'s bed alone, never mind a single test, cost more than A.'s take-home pay for that year and I wasn't employed (she's a public school teacher.)S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06957943262402999997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-39296275089939364022008-08-28T00:50:00.000-04:002008-08-28T00:50:00.000-04:00I had my twins the day after you wrote this post, ...I had my twins the day after you wrote this post, and they languished in NICU for two weeks until I threatened to sign them out AMA. The next day, surprise surprise, my son was pronounced fit to go home, and my daughter the day after that.Uccellinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10014677717871289675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-90115911898640894992008-03-04T22:26:00.000-05:002008-03-04T22:26:00.000-05:00Co, I put my response to your comment on the main ...Co, I put my response to your comment on the main page. But the hugs are gratefully accepted and returned.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06957943262402999997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-44500269392560639512008-03-04T22:25:00.000-05:002008-03-04T22:25:00.000-05:00Thanks, all, for reading and, oh, witnessing, I gu...Thanks, all, for reading and, oh, witnessing, I guess.<BR/><BR/>Welcome, Superlagirl! I hope you come again when I'm a little cheerier, too.<BR/><BR/>Jody, you know this better than anyone else I've talked to about it. NICUs should be on the leading edge of understanding what newborns need, which is to be in a family, not a plastic bin, and they just don't get it.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06957943262402999997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-18639748072389762902008-03-04T17:37:00.000-05:002008-03-04T17:37:00.000-05:00My dad commit suicide on April Fool's Day, of all ...My dad commit suicide on April Fool's Day, of all days. I'm sure he wasn't paying attention to what day it was. But it was a hard anniversary for me for many years, partially because it's a day that can't go by without someone playing a silly prank or doing something to remind me of what fricking day it is. And I used to think, "Yeah, I think I've been shocked and surprised enough for a lifetime of April Fool's Days. You can just leave me alone, please."<BR/><BR/>I have been able to take that day back, however. The first year I did that, I ran a race called the Backwards Mile (you run a full mile backwards and try not to fall over) and then had brunch with a friend afterward. That friend did not know that it was the anniversary of my dad's death, so it was nice to sit there and chit-chat and eat omelettes while knowing that the person across from me had no idea that I was trying to start a new tradition of making good memories on a difficult day.<BR/><BR/>I know the trauma surrounding Z's birth is not something you can ever forget. But maybe, as more and more years go by and you watch Z. enjoy celebrating her birthday, you will be able to build good associations and memories for that day, too. <BR/><BR/>Hugs.Nonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09709961376174590317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-91743819350964257352008-03-04T13:22:00.000-05:002008-03-04T13:22:00.000-05:00Happy birthday to Z. May each passing year weaken ...Happy birthday to Z. May each passing year weaken the pain of those horrifying first days.Furrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617566957749784387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-3465391713439789782008-03-04T13:04:00.000-05:002008-03-04T13:04:00.000-05:00(o)(o)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-37640983939824030512008-03-04T13:00:00.000-05:002008-03-04T13:00:00.000-05:00That's a very difficult testimony to read. I can't...That's a very difficult testimony to read. I can't begin to imagine how horrendous that whole situation must have been.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-50644054280591475112008-03-04T11:08:00.000-05:002008-03-04T11:08:00.000-05:00It's awful that Z.'s birthday has to be experience...It's awful that Z.'s birthday has to be experienced as also, in some sense, a death. Love you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-38982588142722530232008-03-03T21:15:00.000-05:002008-03-03T21:15:00.000-05:00Thinking of you: (0)Thinking of you: (0)susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12000470374101306070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-3048276334170091502008-03-03T21:14:00.000-05:002008-03-03T21:14:00.000-05:00(o)(o)elswherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09682431666658202440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-13378442003740347282008-03-03T18:07:00.000-05:002008-03-03T18:07:00.000-05:00xoxoxoxoxoxokathy a.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14479337952651746193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-4985091387498891482008-03-03T14:54:00.000-05:002008-03-03T14:54:00.000-05:00(o)(o)jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55830807767176233.post-85894841173105028582008-03-03T12:48:00.000-05:002008-03-03T12:48:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry, S.Damn.[Elba was released because I ...I'm so sorry, S.<BR/><BR/>Damn.<BR/><BR/>[Elba was released because I had a temper tantrum in a crowded room.]Jodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06118652456935364104noreply@blogger.com